我们应该知道 ~

我们厌倦童年生活，急于长大，而后又渴望返老还童 ~

我们牺牲自己的健康来换取金钱，然后又牺牲金钱来恢复健康 ~

我们对未来充满忧患，但却忘记了现在；于是，我们既不生活在现在，也不生活于未来之中 ~

我们应该知道不可能取悦于所有的人。我们所能做的只是让自己被人所爱 ~

我们应该知道，一生中最有价值的不是拥有什么东西，而是拥有什么人 ~

我们应该知道，与他人攀比是不好的 ~

我们应该知道，富的人并不是拥有最多，而是需要最少 ~

我们应该知道要在所爱的人身上造成深度的创伤只要几秒钟，但是治疗创伤则需要花几年的时间，甚至更长 ~

不要错放了幸福温暖的手 ~

往往许多人在抉择伴侣时，容易东想西想，不知所措，就是因为害怕一时做错
决定，看错人，造成终生的遗憾。
诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说：“此时此刻在地球上，约有两万个人适合当你的人
生伴侣，就看你先遇到哪一个，
如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前，你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜、互相信
赖的深层关系，那后者就会变成你的好朋友，
但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系，感情就容易动摇、变心，直到你与
这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情，
才是幸福的开始，漂泊的结束。

爱上一个人不需要靠努力，只需要靠“际遇”，是上天的安排，但是“持续地爱一
个人”就要靠“努力”，
在爱情的经营中，顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制 (面临诱惑有
所自制)。有许多人总是?
“际遇”所迷惑与苦恼，意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散，而忘了培养经营感情
的能力才是幸福的关键。

所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr.Right，而是n问说在眼前的伴侣关系中，我
能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度，
若没有培养出经营幸福的能力，就算真的Mr.Right出现在你身边，幸福依然会
错过的，而活在犹疑与遗憾当中，
这不就是许多“爱情虚无症”的遭遇与心态吗？

若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣，不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了，我们往往
不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，
就是“近亲生慢侮”，也就是经济学中的铁律“边际效益递减法则”，跟你在一起
越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，
而新鲜的“际遇”总是那么动人可爱。

在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心的伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最
多的人，
当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机
会，再加上他的刻意讨好，
所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了，新欢身上总是有
不确定的未知数，
旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的“际
遇”中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。

所以萧伯纳的话，是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一，应该把精神用
在学会经营幸福的能力上，
同时也提醒我们“弱水三千只取一瓢饮”若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣，就不要再三
心二意了，
因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个，所以要知福惜福、活
在当下。

忍耐 ~

忍耐，是一种涵养，一种学问，一种人生境界！

在愤怒中安静；在激动中自持；在冤屈中沉默；在危险中镇静；在贫穷中安然；在寂寞中泰然自处。

要把眼泪收起来，把笑脸摆出来；把伤口遮起来，把胸膛挺起来；

要在心口插着一把刀的时候，还能笑得出来。。。

Watch ~

Watch your Thoughts, they become Words ~

Watch your Words, they become Actions ~

Watch your Actions, they become Habits ~

Watch your Habits, they become your Character ~

Watch your Character, it becomes your Destiny ~ !

原來平凡才是幸福 ！

人生要的不多，原來簡單的擁有，就是幸福！

現今世界上的七個奇蹟

有一組學生在課堂上被問到，列出他們心裡認為「現今世界上的七個奇蹟」。

大部分學生的答案是：

1. 埃及的金字塔

2. 印度的泰姬陵

3. 美國的大峽谷

4. 巴拿馬運河

5. 美國的帝國大廈

6. 羅馬的聖彼得大教堂

7. 中國的萬里長城

當老師在收學生的答案時，其中有一個小女生遲遲無法寫完。

老師跟這個小女孩說，如果她有什麼問題而寫不完的話，老師可以給她一點協助。

這個小女孩說：是的，老師！我有個小小的問題...我腦海裡有好多世界上發生的奇蹟，但是，我沒有辦法決定該選哪七個才好...

老師說：沒關係，請你告訴我們，你想到了什麼，我們來幫幫你的忙！

小女生猶豫了一下，她說：我覺得，世界上的七個奇蹟是...

1. 我們能看見世界上美好的事物（To See）

2. 我們可以聽的到蟲鳴鳥叫和快樂的歌聲（To Hear）

3. 我們能觸摸新奇有趣的東西（To Touch）

4. 我們能品嚐美味的食物（To Taste）

5. 我們可以感覺到親友的關懷（To Feel）

6. 我們可以隨心所欲的大笑（To Laugh）

7. 我們能愛人與被愛（To Love）

小女生說完後，整的教室突然間安靜了下來...

因為，在我們的生命中，人們常常忽略了「最簡單而最平凡的」，而這些才是我們生命中的「奇蹟」！！！

Think ~

1 stone is enough to break a glass ~

1 sentence is enough to break a heart ~

1 second is enough to fall in love ~


Think carefully before talk/speak/type to people ~

Words can cut into deepest heart, leaving an unrecoverable scar.

Romance Story ~

As the sunset over a clear blue ocean, the sky was painted in red radiance shine upon a rose garden. There is a lady in the center of the garden. She has a long silky hair with teary blue eyes. As the sky turn into darkness, a man walked out from the mansion towards her. The man stopped behind her, she says “after reading the book, it said if a man really loves me, he will be willing to sacrifice his time for me. If he presents 1000 sticks of roses; miracle will happen.” Carl, “do you believe in miracle?” “Yes” said by Carl.

Alice is 20 years old, she is a kind and helpful person, she was born in a rich and happy family, but she is lame since she was born. Her parents try everything and bring her to oversea for medical, but still she not able to walk. Even with the advancement in medicine nowadays, the doctors still cannot explain why she is born lame. Alice's parents are very worried about her situation. Alice knows that and she tries very hard to standup and to walk. She is sensible and optimistic. She always believes in miracle and she believes she will be able to walk like everyone else one day.

Carl is 22 years old; he is Alice best friend since their childhoods. When Alice’s parents are not around, Carl is the one who take care and accompany Alice. Carl know that Alice wish to run and play with others since her childhood. Her situation causes her not to have many friends and she has no choice but to quit some of the activities. Carl loves Alice since he was a child, but he never tells Alice his feeling till now. He always spends time with Alice. When Alice is not happy, he will comfort her.

Carl decided to go to Canada and focus on research. He decided to research so that he would know how to cure Alice's leg. He did that because he wants Alice to be happy. He wants to give his best to find the cure, so he has no choice but to leave Alice, temporary. After Carl left, Alice feel lonely and unhappy, no one can accompany her always. She can share with no one. Although Carl keeps in touch with Alice frequently, for example long distance calls, msn chat, email daily, all Alice want is to have Carl standing beside her to accompany her, not through all these technologies.

Alice couldn't sleep well since Carl left. One day she woke up at 4 with strong feelings of wanting to go to the garden that is nearby her house. Alice used to go to the garden because it has much different type of flowers there. She went to the garden in her wheel chair. When Alice reached the garden, she saw a middle-aged man lying down in the garden.

When the man woke up, he is already in Alice's house. His face reflected his lost and fear. Alice tries to calm him down and make him understand that he is safe. After a short while, his emotions cool down finally. Alice tries to communicate with him so that she could help him. However, both of them cannot understand each other's language, as he has lost his memory. Alice asks her parents to let this man to stay with them. From that day, Alice took care of him and teaches him English. Alice named him Leo.

After Leo came, Alice's life is totally changed, she could feel something really different when Leo talk. As days go by, Alice realized that she fall in love with Leo, because Leo treated her very nice and she enjoyed the moment they two together. She is lame, and this causes fear in her to share to Leo about her feeling. Despite her fear, she did send email to Carl and tell him that she had fallen in love with Leo. The moment Leo came is the moment Carl paid full attention on his research, which resulted the lack of communication between Carl and Alice.

Leo had nightmares recently. The dream is about him dropping from a ship when it is hit by a surge. He awakens from this bad dream immediately. One month later, when he woke up, he reliaze wrinkle appear on his leg, he has no idea what happen to him. From these nightmares, he started to recall piece and pieces of his identity.

He is a French sailor from 1928. He recalls that he does not belong to this century. When he read the newspaper, he realize he is in year 2008. He doesn't know how he could back to the future. More and more wrinkles appear on his body day by day. So he decided to leave Alice's house without telling anyone. He wants to do something for the one he loves before he dies. That is to collect 1000 roses for Alice, so that miracle may happen to her. He left on the next day morning. When Alice woke up, she could not find Leo and she worried about him. Alice feels sad when Leo is not around. She is worried if something had happen to Leo. She cried every night and keep on asking her parents to find Leo. Within one month time, Alice becomes thinner and no appetite. She goes to the garden where she met Leo for the first time daily and hopes that Leo will appear, however, she is disappointed, day after day.

At a moment when she feels down, suddenly an incoming call from Canada disrupted her thought. Yes, it was a call from Carl. (I thought is Leo?) Carl told her that he has been busy researching her leg's problem, that's why for all these whiles he is not able to contact or email her. Carl never read the email sent by Alice previously. Besides, Carl told Alice that he will be coming back the next three days, and he has prepared a big surprise to her. Alice was not happy because what she wants was that Leo to appear in front of her right now.

The next day, when it is sunset, Alice goes to the garden she used to go. She saw an old people lie down in the middle of the garden when she reached, surrounded by a lot of roses. Alice finds the old man familiar, but she cannot confirm if he is Leo. She was also wondering why the garden was filled with roses suddenly. She is scared, as she didn't know if the old man is still alive. As she comes closer, she realizes that the old man takes after Leo, just that Leo hasn't reach that age. The old man is dying, he is not able to speak and see Alice clearly. He just smiles and tries, take one of the white rose to give her. At that moment, Alice started crying and knew for sure the old man is Leo. She didn't know why Leo will become like this and she couldn't accept it. Alice cried to the extent that she couldn't say a single word.

Alice knew that Leo did all these things because he believed in miracle, a miracle that will happen when a man presents 1000 roses to his true. She shouted to Leo, Why? I'm not worthy for all these you have done for me while she is still crying. As the night approaches, a strong wind blows suddenly. Alice fall down from her wheel chair and she saw Leo and all the roses fly away with the storm wind. Alice can’t believe all these things happen. After she comes to herself again, and go back to her wheel chair with much difficulty, it blows a soft wind, she feel comfortable and she hear Leo’s voice “Alice, je t'aime”